What Should I Have Done When a Woman Dinged My Car Door in Portland?
I was actually IN my car when it happened.
I was sitting in the parking lot of BJ's going over my massive list of things to buy. The parking spots at the BJ's in Portland have pretty typical spacing. Not tight, but the spots aren't huge. Typical. As I sat in my car I heard AND felt something hit my car. I looked over my left shoulder and there she was. A woman who opened her back passenger car door so hard, it smacked right into my car. I know she realized what she did because she immediately took it off my door and closed her door a bit.
(this is NOT the car in question, but this is WHERE the car was...I was too stunned to take a picture)
I sat stunned. She went about her chore of loading her car with the groceries and completely ignoring the fact that she just dinged my car. I got out of my car thinking, 'Oh, she must certainly not realize a person is in the car and knows what just happened.'
I stood there 2 feet from her. She looked at me and said nothing. But here's the worst part. I stood there and said nothing. I didn't confront her. I didn't say, 'Hey..you just hit my car with your door.' I just stood there like an idiot. And I could CLEARLY see where her door hit my car because there was white paint. I was so in shock, I immediately was wiping off the paint with my finger...while she was standing near me! I then thought I should take a picture.
This is what I couldn't get off by rubbing my nail on it.
Now, before you think I'm a Karen and bitching about a spec of white paint on my car - I'm not. It's that this woman refused to acknowledge what she had done. If she had apologized, no big whoop. We all make mistakes. But she could not even look at me.
I'm mad at myself. I could not figure out what to do. I honestly was so stunned. I wanted to say, 'Hey! You just hit my car!' All I could muster was a couple of loud scoffs and shaking my head. She was with some dude, maybe her husband, and off they both went - never once saying a thing.
I'm still mad at myself. What should I have done? What would you have done? Honestly, what would you have done?
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